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Codependency in Relationships Test: Are You Losing Yourself?

In a healthy relationship, two people support each other while maintaining personal space. In a codependent relationship, that boundary fades. One person begins living through their partner's problems, gives up personal interests, feels compelled to “rescue” them, and fears saying no. This test assesses the strength of your personal boundaries and whether you maintain healthy autonomy or sacrifice your needs for your partner. Your results can help you recognise a rescuer pattern and begin reclaiming personal space without guilt. The test takes about 5 minutes.

How this test is built

The questionnaire consists of 15 statements assessing personal boundaries, responsibility for a partner's emotions, and fear of rejection. Your total score indicates one of three levels of codependent tendencies, from 0 to 45 points. This is an educational self-reflection tool for recognising relationship patterns. It is not a clinical test and does not replace a psychological assessment.

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Questions about “Codependency”

What is codependency in a relationship?

Codependency is an emotional pattern in which one partner repeatedly sacrifices their own needs and assumes responsibility for the other's problems. Over time, they lose their sense of identity and feel valuable only when someone needs them or they are “rescuing” someone.

What does this test assess?

It assesses three main areas: the strength of your personal boundaries, your tendency to assume responsibility for your partner's moods, and your anxiety about rejection. It shows how likely you are to neglect yourself to preserve harmony in the relationship.

What is the difference between healthy care and codependency?

Healthy care means offering support while allowing your partner to solve their own problems. Codependency begins when their problems become yours and the desire to help turns into emotional self-neglect or control.

Is the result an official diagnosis?

No. This is an educational self-reflection tool that helps identify behavioural tendencies. It does not replace professional advice from a psychologist or psychotherapist.

What should I do if my result shows strong codependent tendencies?

Start with small steps: identify your own wishes and rediscover activities you enjoy independently of your partner. If you feel completely exhausted, consider seeking emotional support from a psychotherapist.

How long does the test take, and is it free?

The test is completely free and requires no registration or personal information. The 15 questions take about 5 minutes.

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